Yesterday we got some difficult news. My daughter and son-in-law, who will be married four years this month, are divorcing over some medical issues she has. She never shared their struggle with us (her parents) or sought help from a qualified therapist that I know of. When she sat us down last night and told us they were separating, I got the distinct impression it was because he doesn't *want* to put the effort into living a different life than the one he was expecting. I don't know if the *want* is there for either of you, but that has to come first. Sometimes what the heart doesn't feel, can be known by the brain. Feelings are fickle things. Life gets hard. But when we establish with our minds what we know to be right, we can be strengthened to push the heart onward toward mutual support. Perhaps the first step is to sit down and determine if you can still imagine love in your head.