Carolyn it sounds so very heartbreaking. Please be very careful. Drug addicts and alcoholics are so manipulating. Please protect and take care of yourself. Drug addicts and alcoholics will not change until they hit bottom and they're so humbled and sick and tired they'll do anything to change. It doesn't sound like your daughter is there yet. The road to sobriety is long and hard, and one has to really want it. You may find some good support at Alanon meetings. I'll pray for both of you.